I’ve always had a problem with trying to make everyone else happy, and I am done with it. It’s taken me 26 years to realize that I have to live my life for me and not for everyone else. I want to do what makes me happy, even if it makes everyone else mad. I think I owe that to myself. As long as my daughter and I are happy, safe, and taken care of, then everyone else’s thoughts, opinions, and whatever shouldn’t matter. It’s taken so long for me to actually realize this and start putting it into action.

I believe that’s true for everyone. Everyone should live for themselves. To heck with what everyone else wants you to do or what they think you should do. You have to be happy. Making everyone else happy won’t make you happy. It will more than likely make you miserable and feel trapped in a life that doesn’t feel like your own. That can really take a toll on your mental health.

I’ve lived being unhappy because there are things I’ve held back and didn’t want to say or do because I didn’t want to upset family or friends or even people that are friends of my family. And that is absolutely ridiculous. WHO GIVES A CRAP IF YOU’RE MAKING EVERYONE ELSE HAPPY IF YOU’RE NOT HAPPY YOURSELF?! You have to live your life to the fullest. No one is promised tomorrow, so why not do what you want? Take a chance, take a risk, do that thing you’ve always wanted to do, even if it seems silly or will make someone else mad.

My life is just that. It’s MINE. It’s not my family’s, it’s not my friend’s, it’s not anyone else’s, and the only person that’s going to have to live with the decisions I make is me. And it’s the same for anyone. It’s YOUR life! Live it! What I’ve never understood is why everyone is so preoccupied with other people’s lives anyway. If everyone focused on themselves rather than trying to be nosey about what everyone else is doing, then maybe they would be happier or figure out what would make them happy.

I understand that when people have a certain image of you in their head, it’s hard to see past it and change that image as you change as a person. It may not be that they don’t want you to live your life necessarily, but they are worried. Which is understandable. However, at some point, you just have to trust and have faith in the person and let them make their own decisions and live their life the way they want to, because suffocating them and trying to force what you want on them will only make them push you away.

You may not understand why whoever is making the decisions that they are making, and that’s okay. You don’t need to understand why someone makes every decision that they do. You just need to be supportive and be there for them. I think one of the hardest things to do is let go and let someone live their life the way they want to when you’re worried. But just know that if you felt the same way that they did, like you had to constantly please everyone else and not do what you want, you wouldn’t like that either.

I’ve felt like I couldn’t live my own life and be my own person for a long time. Ever since I was young, I was always so conscience of what everyone thought of me and didn’t want to do or say the wrong thing. I didn’t want to step on anyone’s toes. I did that to the point of putting myself in a bad situation, and was too scared to ask for help because I was worried about what people would think if they knew what was going on, and that’s not healthy. That’s so bad for a person mentally, emotionally, and physically.

I’ve had some really dark days in the past few years and cried so much because I feel like what’s the point of living if I feel like I have to constantly explain myself or if I have to hold myself back for the sake of everyone else. There have been things I never told anyone that I should have because I didn’t want them to be unhappy or make them feel like they were wrong about something or someone, and it has been something I carry around constantly.

The older I’ve gotten, the more I realize how ridiculous it is to constantly worry about other people’s opinions or their business. Along with not caring about what other people think, I also no longer care what anyone else is doing. Do you, I’ll do me, and we shouldn’t have a problem. I don’t care about gossip or if such and such is doing this or that. It’s not my problem, and I really don’t give a shit.

If someone doesn’t like something, they will get over it. And if not, then they are the one that has to live worrying about something that’s not even their business in the first place. I’m not losing any sleep over other people anymore. I just want to live my life and be happy. And everyone else should do the same. Don’t worry about it, go for what you want and what will be best for YOU, not everyone else.

Live Your Life For You!

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